“要一双鞋子,给你一双袜子”——林肯小时候的故事

12/04/12 15:15:55 标签:有梦人生不觉寒

圣诞节的前夜,史密斯先生在自家鞋店玻璃橱前发现了一个捡煤屑的穷小子,衣衫褴褛,穿着一双早已“千疮百孔”并极不合适的鞋子,正盯着橱柜里精美的鞋子,眼睛里饱含着一种莫名的希翼。这就是当时只有八九岁光景的林肯。当史密斯先生问林肯:“我能帮你什么忙时?”林肯回答:“我在祈求上帝赐我一双合适的鞋子。”面对林肯的要求,史密斯先生没有接纳其夫人的建议,直接送给林肯一双鞋子,而是拿出一双橱柜里最好的袜子,并告诉林肯:“孩子啊,真对不起,你要一双鞋子的要求,上帝没有答应,他说,不能给你一双鞋子,而应当给你一双袜子。”当林肯的脸上布满失望与伤心的神情时,史密斯先生边用温水给他洗脚,边给林肯说了一番让他终身受益的话:“孩子,我们每个人都会对心中的上帝有所祈求,但是,他不可能给予我们现成的好事,就像在我们生命的果园里,每个人都追求果实累累,但是上帝只能给我们一粒种子,只有把这粒种子播进土壤里,精心去呵护,它才能开出美丽的花朵,到了秋天才能收获丰硕的果实;也就像每个人都追求宝藏,但是上帝只能给我们一把铁楸或一张藏宝图,要想获得真正的宝藏还需要我们亲自去挖掘。关键是自己要坚信自己能办到,自信了,前途才会一片光明啊!就拿我来说吧,我在小时侯也曾祈求上帝赐予我一家鞋店,可上帝只给了我一套做鞋的工具,但我始终相信拿着这套工具并好好利用它,就能获得一切。二十年过去了,我做过擦鞋童、学徒、修鞋匠、皮鞋设计师……现在,我不仅拥有了这条大街上最豪华的鞋店,而且拥有了一个美丽的妻子和幸福的家庭。孩子,你也是一样,只要你拿着这双袜子去寻找你梦想的鞋子,义无返顾,永不放弃,那么,肯定有一天,你也会成功的。另外,上帝还让我特别叮嘱你:他给你的东西比任何人都丰厚,只要你不怕失败,不怕付出!”
    史密斯先生的一番话,可谓影响了林肯的一生,三十年过后,昔日的穷小子成为了美国历史上有名的总统。

读罢这个故事,我们不能不为史密斯先生充满智慧的话语所折服,他那比黄金还贵重的话和一双袜子激活了林肯生命的自信和不屈,并开启了林肯去追求实现自己的梦想的大门。试想,如果当时史密斯先生出于同情和怜悯,直接送给林肯一双温暖和漂亮的鞋子,那么,有可能林肯就会逐渐习惯于在自己困难时首先想到向别人求救,把希望寄托在别人身上,自己消极地等待、被动地接受,从而成为生活没有方向和目标,不能主宰自己人生的人。
    对照史密斯先生,不知我们做家长的是否有所感悟,也许我们对自己的孩子过于呵护,过于担心和忧虑,怕孩子吃苦、怕孩子受累、怕孩子有委屈……,太多的担心让我们总想为孩子包揽一切(从物质到精神),如此,我们的孩子就会从小时侯的饭来张嘴衣来伸手到长大后的无助、无能和无为,我们的孩子在我们的过度保护下会慢慢失去自己拼搏、生存的能力,他们的一对展翅飞翔的羽毛将越发柔弱并最终退化。我想,我们做家长的,应该学习史密斯先生,要从孩子保姆、书童、秘书等的角色中转变过来,要成为孩子生活的指引者、设计者和启迪者,要给予孩子对他终身发展有益的东西,要帮助孩子学会如何设计和选择自己的人生,要树立孩子为实现自己理想而努力奋斗的决心和信心,要教会孩子解决问题的方法而非直接告知问题的答案,因为“授人以渔”远远好于“授人以鱼”。

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  • 育儿网网友对小凯说:2017-12-09 15:54:42
  • 他爸爸就是鞋匠,还用要别人的鞋子?
  • 育儿网网友对小凯说:2017-12-06 19:07:35
  • 差评!!!!!!!!!!!林肯爸爸就是鞋匠
  • 育儿网网友对小凯说:2017-12-06 19:06:38
  • 666666666666可是跟我们老师讲的不一样哎,而且林肯的爸爸不就是鞋匠吗?那林肯还向被人要鞋子吗?这不科学!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • 育儿网网友对小凯说:2016-12-14 18:04:18
  • 看过,很好
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